excerpt | no time to think



one of the biggest complaints in modern society is being overscheduled, overcommitted and overextended. ask people at a social gathering how they are and the stock answer is "super busy," "crazy busy" or "insanely busy". nobody is just "fine" anymore.
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and if there is ever a still moment for reflective thought - say, while waiting in line at the grocery store or sitting in traffic - out comes the mobile device...

it could be because human beings, when left alone, tend to dwell on what's wrong in their lives. we have evolved to become problem solvers and meaning makers. what preys on our minds, when we aren't updating our facebook page or in spinning class, are the things we haven't figured out... and until there is resolution, or at least some kind of understanding or acceptance, these thoughts reverberate in our heads. hello rumination. hello insomnia.

"it's like we're all in this addicted family where all this busyness seems normal when it's really harmful." said stephanie brown, a psychologist in silicon valley.

studies further suggest that not giving yourself time to reflect impairs your ability to empathize with others.

...hard as they sometimes are, negative feelings are a part of everyone's life, arguable more so if you are crazy busy. but it's those same deep and troubling feelings, and how you deal with them, that make you the person you are. while busyness may stanch welling sadness, it may also limit your ability to be overcome with joy.



murphy, k. (2014) "no time to think", new york times, july 25

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